Beware of the words ...

We can see that in every culture there are topics and words that are dangerous.
That means that educated people do not talk about these taboo
topics and do not use these taboos in polite company.

Dr. Reinhold Aman, an expert on "maledicta" (bad words), explains
three kinds of taboo words: obscenities, blasphemies, and slurs.

Obscenities are vulgar words for sexual body parts, sexual acts,
and excrement. A few hundred years ago, these words were used
freely, and were not taboo. Examples: cock, fuck, shit.

Blasphemy is language that religious teachings say are taboo: God
damn it; go to Hell; Jesus Christ! These words may be used in a
religious context, but not for other reasons.
Slurs are insulting words about someone's nationality or race.
Some words for racial or national groups are among the most
dangerous words in the language: kike, wop, nigger.


It is not the meaning of the word that makes it dangerous.
For example Buttocks, behind, and ass all mean the same part of the body.
Buttocks is a "clean" word, used in formal situations; behind is a
"cleaner" word, used in general conversation; and ass is a "dirty"
word, used in informal situations, but avoided in school, writing,
and business. You might ask, what made "ass" a bad word, if it is
all right to say "buttocks" or "behind?"

Vulgar words are the lowest social class of words. They are the
simple, clear words of uneducated people for body parts and sex
and bathroom terms. Careful speakers never use vulgar words in
formal situations, in the classroom, in the office, or in formal
written work. Don't use vulgar words when speaking to teachers,
superiors, customers, older people, children, strangers, new
friends, and mixed groups of both men and women.

If you want to learn more about these words the book titled "An Indispenstble Guide to Dangerous English 2000" by Elizabeth Claire will help you a lot.
She is a mild-mannered grandmother residing
in Saddle Brook, New Jersey. She wrote this book because she
was too embarrassed to explain terms she knew her students
wanted and needed . She is the founder and editor of Easy English NEWS as
well as the author of twenty other texts and resources for people
learning English. I would suggest that all serious langauge learners should keep copy of it with them .Since I have a copy with me I would be happy to share many things I learned from the book. Those who are interested can contact me at
41smile@gmail.com
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"A special kind of beauty exists which is born in language, of language, and for language." says Gaston Bachelard.

Paul Goodman:"Comedy is something that we can all share, no matter what language we speak or our background, it has the power to unite us all."


"Language is a wonderful thing. It can be used to express thoughts, to conceal thoughts, but more often, to replace thinking."
-Kelly Fordyce

Lovely Words to Express Love

Love, if we’ve experienced it, is neither manipulative nor abusive;
it is humanitarian and seeks the good of all;
it heals and restores relationships – “Love heals all.”
Love transcends the politics and angry polemics of the day;
it transcends physical attraction and emotion, beyond the ‘feel good’ factor, to empower an ascent of one’s spirit to a peak that is restorative in essence.
This singular capacity and quality of love within our being is reason enough to celebrate the cause and course of love.

Love has been the cause for the rise and fall of many in history –
both individuals and institutions – since essentially,
love is relational, a quality, that has inspired
a treasury of expressions on the essence and effects of love.
It has also given us a list of intriguing terms of endearment
used by loved ones to refer to their significant other,
depending on the object and nature of love in question –
romantic, familial, spiritual, humanitarian, aesthetic or patriotic.
And, with apologies to the French, the language of love belongs to all, because according to Dr Gary Chapman, “The craving for love is our deepest emotional need ...” After all, we are all created in God’s love.

One of my favourite quotes on the immeasurable depths of love comes from Kahlil Gibran :

Love gives naught but itself and takes naught but from itself.

Love possesses not nor would it be possessed;

For love is sufficient unto love.

When you love you should not say, “God is in my heart,” but rather, “I am in the heart of God.”


The English language has its own stockpile you can choose from.
Categories range from heavenly bodies to earth-bound flora and fauna, and more. Popular on the list are
“Darling”, “Love”, “Beautiful”,
“Dear” , “Honey”, “Sweetheart”, “Baby doll” and the like.
“Angel”, “Star”, “Twinkle”, “Sunshine”, and “Dove”, have also made their heavenly descent.


"There are lovely, romantic words that stir women. Many men do not realize the untapped potential of these words -- on women and on relationships. If they did, they would practice them night and day until endearments rolled off their tongues like poetry. The right words elevate both giver and receiver, heal damaged relationships, lift us up and help us be our finest selves. A fine endearment is both Art and act of Love. It is a caress with words, titillation with praises, a tickle with the mind. It is a gift of not only the endearment itself, nor even the sculpting of it, but the very act of giving it, an act which requires a certain amount of bravado in itself. Women are moved by these things. We value them. They make us feel special and loved."Caroleeena has compiled The following adjectives :

"Below, I have compiled a list of words women love but men rarely use -- words you can add to your word palette and draw upon to make someone feel special. Read over the two lists – Adjectives and Nouns. Introduce each individual word into your mind’s landscape and consider its unique and special meanings. Speak the words out loud and feel them in your mouth and on your tongue. Hear the words with your ears. Become accustomed to speaking them and hearing them come out of your mouth. Then begin to weave together these adjectives and nouns and experience the different qualities of each combination."


Luminous - Exquisite - Divine
Delightful - Exotic - Unique
Lovely - Beautiful - Desirable
Sensuous - Brilliant - Endearing
Insouciant - Charming -Sparkling
Shining - Intriguing - Excellent
Saucy - Fetching - Seductive
Passionate - Sensuous - Delectable
Fierce - Fabulous - Ravishing
Hot - Show-stopping - Jaw-dropping
Fiery - Priceless - Mysterious
Dazzling - Elegant - Luscious
Vibrant - Fantastic - Bewitching
Mesmerizing - Captivating - Enchanting
Graceful - Stunning - Scrumptious
Rapturous - Vivacious - Alluring
Intoxicating - Magnificent - Radiant
Magical - Luscious - Ravishing
Fetching - Tempting - Electrifying
Entrancing - Enticing - Irresistible
Heavenly - Precious - Matchless
Outstanding - Resplendent - Sumptuous

Nouns:

Angel - Flower - Temptress
Dish - Art - Creature
Vixen - Siren - Vision
Vision of Lovliness - Treasure
Vision of Beauty -
Woman - Babe - Looker
Gypsy - Lioness - Queen
Huntress - Sprite - Stunner
Venus - Priestess - Empress


Courtesy to:Luclille Dass and Caroleena

Dear vivacious reader remember:

"Watch your thoughts, for they become words.
Watch your words, for they become actions.
Watch your actions, for they become habits.
Watch your habits, for they become character.
Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.”


“I love you more than I have ever found a way to say to you”

Have a nice life wherever you go .
Thank you ....

Be the first to start a greeting!

Start with a greeting , an introduction, and simply tell the new person your name. Offer your hand to shake, upon his/her responding to you.
Then following phrases can be used .

1. Hi.


Hello.

2. Good morning.

Good afternoon.

Good evening.

3. How are you?

How are you doing?

How ya doing? (Informal)

4. Fine. How about you?

5. Okay. Thanks.

Yes, Now the time to in troduce your self

1. I'm Ismail .


I'm Jackie. (Use first name in informal situations)

2. I'm Sumesh .


I'm Sumesh Soman. (Use full name in business and formal situations)

3. (It's) nice to meet you.


(It's) nice meeting you.
(It's) good to meet you.


4. Nice to meet you too.


Remember :-We all recognize the differences between those who are able to join naturally in a conversation and those that aren't. We know some of us are just better at it than others, but what we don't all realize is that it is possible to become a better conversationalist through practice.

Please my dear ,be cheerful, good humored.
Smile. Make it an interested, friendly smile.
Show your good feelings in the way you say things.
Leave your tragic mask at home.
Don’t try to get people to gather round
by exhibiting what a hurt, misunderstood soul you are.

Remember, whoever you are talking to, you always have something in common.
We all experience the weather, like good food, and enjoy a good laugh.
When in doubt, just talk to them about what they are there for.
For example, if you meet them at a bus stop, ask them where they are going.
If they are from out of town, ask them about their life at home.

Remember, feel comfortable and look neat, no one wants to talk to a slob.
One last thing, it is important to practice getting conversations started.
You may feel a little clumsy at first, but with practice
it can become easy to start good conversations.
And just remember to be yourself !

Best of Luck

Let's start ...

Listen to Anyone Speak Casually in English

Listen to almost anyone speak casually in English and you'll most certainly hear them use a constant flow of gap fillers, hesitations, pausings and discourse markers that stall their speech or conversation. You know the ones I mean like, uh, ah, hmm, errr, umm and so on. Others you might hear that are frequently used are Huh, oh, well .., so .., and ... but uh ..., let me see ..., the list could go on and on.

While some discourse markers have a true place in oral discourse of many different types, most often they are unconsciously inserted as fillers or hesitations and do not serve to enhance or promote speaking, but rather heavily detract from what is being said.

The following expressions will make you confident while you engage in conversations

For oral use only :
- I mean....
- You see....
- Well, let me see...
- Look!
- Listen!
- If you see what I mean!
- Do you see what I mean?
- Let’s get this into perspective.
- Watch it!
- Picture this.
- Look here!
- All right!
- Is that clear enough?

AGREEING

Yes, indeed.
Yes, certainly.

Yes, you're quite right.

Yes, I think so.

Yes, I've got the same point of view as you (have).

Yes, I quite agree with [person] about [topic]

The journalist agrees with [person] about [topic]

DISAGREEING

Well... (rising tone= doubt or disbelief)

Well, I don't think so really.

Well, my point of view is rather different from yours.

Well, I don't ( quite ) agree with you.

Well, I'm afraid I disagree.

Hum ! I rather disagree.

The journalist disagreeS / doesn't agree with [person] about [topic]

ASKING FOR INSTRUCTIONS OR FOR HELP
Could you tell me what I have to do ?

Can you tell what passage you want me to translate?

Could you give me some (blotting) paper ?

Can you give me some explanation about ... ?

Could you explain the word " ... " to me ?

What's the English/French for ... ?

I'm afraid I don't understand the word " ... ".

What does the abbreviation " ... " stand for ?

PROPOSING
Do you want me to read a passage first ?

Would you like me to comment upon the first passage ?

Do you want me to translate the first paragraph ?

Shall I translate a passage ?

Would you like to see my identity card ?

EXPRESSING A PERSONAL POINT OF VIEW
As far as I'm concerned, the text ...

To my mind, ...

In my opinion, ...

My opinion is that ...

My personal point of view is that ...

Now, I'd like to say what I think about ...

I'm going to express my own point of view about ...

Remember : “Silence is not just the absence of a significant piece of behaviour. It is not just emptiness. Silence can have meaning. Like the zero in mathematics, it is an absence with a function...”
from William J. Samarin, Language of Silence (1965

Let's start with "Self confidence"

Self confidence
This is what we lack, and this is what your colleague Ismail has.
But what is self confidence?
Is it the ability to speak in a
loud voice so you can get people's attention?
Is it about power dressing?

Self confidence is an attitude that is characterized by a positive
beliefthat one can take control of one's life and of one's plans.

People who are self confident are those who acknowledge
their capacityto do something and then proceed to do these things.
They do not rely on the approval of other people
in order to affirm their existence.
It is enough that they know they have the capacity and the potential
to dosomething, and the guts to do it no matter what others may say.
People who are self confident take advantage of
the opportunities that comes their way.

Lack of self confidence is not proportional to a person's abilities.
In fact, there are people who are extremely talented and able
but they lack self confidence to show these abilities.

Identify your strengths and weaknesses and capitalize on that.
Make full use of your strength and gather positive points.
This will help you gain self confidence.
Do not expect everything to be perfect because
you are bound to do something wrong along the way.
Nobody is perfect and everyone is culpable of making mistakes.

Acknowledge your abilities and talent and take stock of them. Do not
under estimate yourself. Try to recognize every little thing you have
done which has become successful. Try to learn a new skill, and try to
learn new things as this will make you a better person.

If you want to be self confident, avoid things that will
discourage you from gaining confidence. Do not dwell on past mistakes
or failures because it will make you feel insignificant.
Being a defeatist will not give your confidence a boost.

Dear, please concentrate on the positive things that you have done and
accomplished and make them your inspiration. In time, you will have
more faith in yourself, and hopefully, more confidence.

Let's develop self confidence by helping to develop it in others .
Use the following expressions to do this .

Here is a list of 15 encouraging words and phrases
that will assist your to help others to increase
his/her self-esteem and confidence.



1. “Mr Salim , I like the way you handled that”
2. “Wow,Mohan , you really thought out the solution to that problem”
3. “I have faith in your ability ,Smrithi ”
4. “I really appreciate what you did”
5. “You are really showing improvement”
6. “I know you will figure out a good way to do it next time”
7. “You don’t have to be perfect. Effort and improvement are important.”
8. “I trust you to be responsible”
9. “It must make you proud of yourself when you accomplish something like that”
10. “You are a valuable part of the team”
11. “It is okay to make a mistake, we all do.
What do you think you learned from it?”
12. “How can we turn this into a positive?”
13. “I’m proud of you for trying”
14. “I’ll bet by next year you will be able to handle it,
you just need to grow a little”
15. “I know you are disappointed that you didn’t win,
but you’ll do better next time.”

Good luck in your efforts to be more positive
and encouraging to those around you. Your friends ,
family and colleagues will be grateful
and will rise to your expectations .
In turn, you start using good and perfect sentences in English!!!

Remember:-

Confidence doesn't come out of nowhere. It's a result of something...
hours and days and weeks and years of constant work and dedication.
Roger Staubach

Welcome, My respected Guest!

Dear friends ,

Many of the non native speakers want to learn English as it plays a vital role in the communication in the modern world. Many of them know the basic skills and the rules of grammar but they are still not confident to use the language fluently and effectively. As a teacher of English language at various levels of education I find it worthwhile to help my ESL students and friends who wish to use the English in their day to day life .

In this blog , I assure you to provide you with the essential tools of daily communication and the tips and tricks of learning english in the easiest possible ways . Here we will make use of different resources from various sources for imroving both the receptive and prodcutive skills of the language.

Feel free to comment and inform me what you need and whether you are happy with what you are supplied with .As you know , I am a good teacher as I have good students like you .

We will make use of this blog to master the language through funny and interesting ways .



Before I embark on doing anything,let me express my sincere thanks in advance to many noble minded fellows who have travelled a long distance in helping their fellow beings to learn English . We hope to make use of their contributions as well for the usefulness of this blog. So I would be happy to call this blog as a collective efforts of many who work in the field of ESL teaching .


THANK YOU

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"Strange is our situation here upon this earth. Each of us comes for a short visit, not knowing why, yet sometimes seeming to a divine purpose." - Albert Einstein

"The value of a man resides in what he gives and not in what he is capable receiving." - Albert Einstein